Chances are, if you’re reading this you recently saw two pink or blue lines pop up on a pregnancy test. And chances are, you’ve seen those lines before, and it’s ended unexpectedly in a loss.

So, first, my heart goes out to you. I’m sure you’re excited and anxious and overjoyed and terrified, all at the same time. And I can only imagine that you’re afraid to get your hopes up. Afraid to get too attached. Afraid of the what-ifs. And, guess what? That is totally normal! It means you are human, that you have loved before, and that you already love this new tiny human.

Pregnancy after loss is incredibly hard, and early pregnancy after loss can feel like the hardest couple of weeks of your life. Often, you are still grieving and you feel like you’ll be crushed under the weight of fear. But you can still have joy, you can still thrive, and you can still have a fulfilling, hope-filled pregnancy.

So here are ten tips for surviving early pregnancy after loss: